My Sex Life Stinks!
It's amazing to me that during the times of say the Roman Empire, that sex was a part of life. It was not something to whisper about or hide from our friends and family. Sex was a natural part of the culture. Of course history turned a different corner many years later and we're still trying to recover from it now!
Sex is a good thing, but it can become a nightmare when you aren't comfortable with your sexuality--and there could many reasons for that.
- You have limited sexual experience
- You were sexually abused when you were young
- You were raped
- You were taught that sex was "dirty"
- You were taught that sex was for bad girls
- You were taught that sex was only right after marriage
- You are not comfortable with your body
- You don't know what you're doing/You don't know how to move
- You have recently gained weight
- You have recently lost too much weight
- You have recently had a baby
- Sex is painful
- Sex makes you stressed out
- You don't like how sex feels
- You never learned what makes YOU feel good vs. your partner
- You don't know what to tell your partner to do to make you feel good
- You can't talk about sex with your partner or with anyone else for that matter
- You only like the missionary position
- Your partner doesn't think you are attractive enough
- Your partner has crushed any self-confidence you had left about your sexuality
- You suffer from low self-esteem
And I could go on and on. I've always said that it would be great that if at a certain age we women had the option of using a sexual instructor before we had sex. Boys usually begin with older women, and that is how they pick up some of their techniques early in life. We unfortunately are suppose to clueless, because of course if we weren't, then we would be sluts -- so that puts us in a catch 22 situation. How are we suppose to master the technical aspects of sex when we are suppose to be as pure as the driven snow?
Although I can't personally come and teach you sexual techniques - I don't really think that that is the problem anyway. I think that once we conquer our own self-doubts and fears about our sexuality - then we can open any book or watch any sex tape and apply it to our sex lives.
More Free Sex Advice:
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500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets!
If nothing else, this bestselling guide will give you tons of things to try over the next year or so. Knowledge is power:)
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